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Writing is like sex

3 January 2013

Writing is like sex. First you do it for love, then you do it for your friends, and then you do it for money.

Virginia Woolf


18 Comments to “Writing is like sex”

  1. ROFL As long as you’re still having fun doing it, it doesn’t matter. This is THE best writing quote ever.

  2. LOL beautiful! Absolutely love it! RT’d

  3. And even people who are really bad at it still do it a lot.

  4. Just awesome.

  5. Has anyone invented a little blue pill for writer’s block?

  6. And sometimes it requires antibiotics!

    … no? Hm.

  7. Very cleverly put, but not really true. If you plan on trading sex for money, you had better start doing it relatively early in life, before you grow too old and ugly to sell; after which, unless you are lucky or very careful, you are liable to lose the ability to do it for love. Whereas I have known scores of writers who went on writing for love long after they grew accustomed to making money at it, too.

    • Perhaps she was writing for her time, and referring to the phases of marriage in those days. First love, then friendship and then financial security…. ?

      • That dog won’t hunt. Note ‘you do it for friends,’ plural. This is not a description of anybody’s marriage, then or now. It’s a description of a progression that excludes marriage: love affairs -> ‘friends with benefits’ -> outright prostitution.

        • Many marriages I know ……

          • I meant to continue … marriages I have read of from those days.

          • You know of many marriages in which the wife slept around with her male friends? Remember — friends plural.

            • I suggest you are over interpreting the original quote. I would suggest that it is obvious that the intended meaning was that the sex was ‘friend’ sex and not sex with friends. I know many marriages where the relationship gradually drift into ‘friendship’, especially on one side, and sex in this situation could easily fit the intention of the original quote.

  8. I always feel a little worried when I read quotes comparing random things to sex. I mean, I have 4 kids and another on the way, but I get the sneaking suspicion that I must have been doing it wrong all this time.

  9. Just keep practicing Sarah, I read recently that you can’t be good at something until you have 10,000 hours of practice under your belt. If you don’t believe me just ask your husband, I’m sure he’ll agree with me. 🙂

    Please tell all your girlfriends this also, its knowledge best shared.

  10. Hmm. True when it comes to writing, but when it comes to sex? I must be doing it wrong.

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