I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.
Oscar Wilde
Spend time alone
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I’m trying to gently lead a friend to this particular conclusion. She doesn’t want to break up with her toxic boyfriend because she doesn’t think right now is a convenient time to find a new boyfriend.
“Well, you don’t have to keep taking the arsenic just because you want to cut back on sugar. You can just not eat the arsenic.”
Probably a bad example, since I gather you can survive habitually eating arsenic. Right up until you try to quit cold turkey. I’m not going to tell her that, though.
Still. Wilde had a great point.
Thanks for your comment, Jamie.
A long time ago, when I was a young lawyer, an old lawyer was talking with me and philosophized about the unchanging character of human nature, among which characteristics is the toxic boyfriend/toxic girlfriend situation like you mention.
My older friend concluded by saying, “Thank God for human nature. Without it, all of us lawyers would be out of business.”
I got to pay for college thanks to human nature (we handled divorced people). Human-nature trades do seem to be recession and Covid proof 🙂
For sure, Jamie.